So since this has taken me nine years to figure out. I thought I would share it.
Step #1: I created a list of chores that my children must do every week. Their chores range from taking trash out to making their beds. They are not paid for these chores. I explained that some chores get done just because they are part of a family. I don't get paid to do the laundry. However, when I work an additional job outside of being a wife and mom then I get money for those duties.
Step #2: I made these: I purchase these little magnetic bins that hang on my fridge(Dollar Tree). Each child has a bin with clothes pins attached to it. On the clothes pin I put a "job" with a value on it. IF their family chores are done then they can earn money for the additional "jobs." The beauty of this is I can look around the house and simple write down what is dirty at that moment. They can earn up to $5 per week. Jobs range from .50 - $2.00 depending on the difficulty. When they have completed their job they take the note and put it in the bin so I can pay them. They will receive their paycheck every two weeks.
Step #4: Payday we have them give 10% to God, 10% to savings and the rest is theirs to spend.
I know this is a silly blog post. I have struggled to find the right system. I think this is going to work for my family. Maybe you can't tell but.....I am super excited that I don't have to clean my baseboards anymore!